Sometimes it is too hard to be your own person. Life gets you down, you start stressing and you're too sad to act unique. Sometimes you just want to blend, and that's alright. Sometimes it is far too complicated to choose your own path and sometimes you have to be a parasite. It's okay to find someone you're comfortable with and intertwine your two fates for a while. Best friends and boyfriends, parents and siblings, mentors and psychologists, these are people that can help us get from point A to point B in our lives. It's okay to be dependent for a while. It's okay to grieve and need someone to take care of you for a while. It's not a bad thing to be a little too trusting. Maybe you will get your heart broken… again, but at least you've managed to get some perspective. The day you stop trusting everyone but yourself, is the day you lose yourself.
Sometimes we just can't help but like the way a certain person makes us feel. Sometimes that one smile does brighten our lives a bit in the mornings. And the sound of that one voice makes us think of butterflies and rainbows and a happily-ever-after endings. And all the while we're thinking about how awful it is to feel that way because we're going to get "too close."
But maybe those feelings are just what we need. Maybe we were made to feel that way and maybe we're not strong enough to deal with grief on our own. "Anything that softens the blow," people say. Maybe there is truth in that statement. Maybe when we lose someone, but find someone else, there is a reason. Maybe we don't have to feel guilty about not dealing with things solo. Maybe we need comfort too. Why shouldn't we move on? Maybe there is hope. Maybe I just found it?
"Friendship is certainly the finest balm for the pangs of
disappointed love."
--- Jane Austen "Northanger Abbey"
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