Sometimes we beat ourselves up over the choices we've made. It can be hard to know which choice is the right one and which is the wrong one. The trick is to move on after you've made the choice. You have to trust yourself and your instincts. You have to trust that you did what was best for you. When you're young, that is really all that matters, taking care of yourself. But, we have to be honest, and that's the real pain. Sometimes in an effort to move forward in our lives, we hurt the people around us. It not so bad for us but horrible for them. And sometimes they feel like their worlds are coming down around them. And sometimes they get angry and bitter. Sometimes they try to change with you and you both feel uncomfortable. In the end it's our fault, though. Also in the end, it doesn't matter. We've got to do what we've got to do. In the end it is their problem and they have to deal with it.
Maybe they should've been stronger people. Maybe they should've been more independent. Maybe they just need to move on. But we should still be big enough people to admit we hurt them. We can't live in denial about inflicted pain. Maybe we should try to help them get over it a little. No matter what, we need to be honest with ourselves. I think Belgica Howell had it right when she said "never explain yourself. Your friends won't need it and your enemies won't believe it." If someone truly cared about you, they'll see why you had to move on and understand. They'll deal with their pain and move on and they'll be there if your worlds ever connect again. The thing to remember is this: all the time you were together made you who you are.
"Hearts will never be practical until they are made
unbreakable."-- The Wizard of Oz "The Novel"
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